Executive Summary
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- After four years in India, Times correspondent Ellen Barry bought a two-family house so her parents, then in their late 80s, could live downstairs with some autonomy.3:15
- One week before the movers came her father fell on a hardwood floor, lost consciousness, and a scan showed a subarachnoid hemorrhage that began an accelerated vascular dementia and caused his death four and a half years later.4:12
- The hardest change was his constant conviction that he was in the wrong place: he packed suitcases, stripped the art off the walls, once loaded a decorated Christmas tree into the car, and the family finally had a locksmith install locks on the insides of the doors.9:54
- One night she found him crying at the kitchen table, reliving a story he had never told anyone: at six, moving from Pittsburgh to an Air Force base in San Antonio, the bottom fell out of his cage in Chicago station and his canary flew away.13:47
- Years later a neuroscientist at Rockefeller University opened his CT scans and showed that the bleed had struck the right hippocampus, which organizes the sense of place, while the thalamus had gated high-valence memories like the canary into protected cortex.20:18
Key Quote
“and I woke up married.”
— Ellen Barry1:40
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“He also reported to me that the nurses here are all KGB.”
— Ellen Barry6:22
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“And he said, because they speak perfect English.”
— Ellen Barry6:32