A dating coach argues distance, chaos, turmoil and fear of loss create love, not consistency.
Distance means days and weeks, not hoursHe insists ignoring one text for a few hours is not distance; a week of silence that makes her question the relationship is.
Full approval kills her attractionHe argues the second a man gives full approval and validation is the exact second she stops liking him.
Status metrics rank below emotionLooks, money, status, muscle and height do far less, he claims, than distance, chaos, turmoil, fear of loss and drama.
Executive SummaryAI
Speaking to a marker board, the coach opens with his core formula for men: distance, chaos, turmoil and fear of loss equal love, and warns the truth will be uncomfortable.
He claims women's emotions respond better to negative emotion than positive, so peace, love, stability and consistency make a woman bored, disrespectful, and prone to comparing her partner to a fantasy man from romance novels and movies.
Real distance, he says, is not leaving a text for four hours but letting multiple days or a week pass until she questions whether the relationship is completely over, because her emotions run on days, weeks and months.
He ranks five emotions — distance, chaos, turmoil, fear of loss and drama — above looks, money, status, muscle and height, using the example of a beautiful woman devoted to a broke, distant man who plays games.
He closes by telling men never to fear a partner sleeping with someone else, since fear reads as weakness, and pitches his paid community 'the language of women', which he says now has over 1400 guys.
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“I will say this one more time. Distance, chaos, turmoil, and fear of loss equals love.”
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“So when a man gives them peace, love, stability, and consistency, here's the problem.”
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“A woman's emotions operates on a way longer time horizon, days, weeks, and months.”