A strong enough why dissolves fear and reveals the how; identity and awareness decide whether you act.
Ask why until the real reason appearsSeven levels of why turned a hundred thousand dollar goal into keeping two children safe.
You cannot overcome a fear that does not existIntellectual fears are made up in the mind, so focus goes to the goal, not the boogeyman.
Awareness, practice, repetition, and graceRewiring a judging first thought took naming three things he liked about a stranger, over and over.
Executive SummaryAI
Rob Dial, host of The Mindset Mentor and author of Level Up, tells Jay Shetty that two things block action: fear and the identity you think you are, and that intellectual fears like rejection or failure exist only in the mind.
He uses Jim Carrey's four months in character as Andy Kaufman on Man on the Moon, captured in the documentary Jim and Andy, to argue that who you think you are is a role you can put down.
His method is three steps, awareness, practice and repetition, shown by forcing himself to name three things he liked about a stranger on a Bluetooth headset he had just judged in a grocery store.
He argues a why beats motivation: a coaching client who said he wanted to make a hundred thousand dollars a year really wanted custody of his two children, whom he feared would be killed in a drive-by.
In November of 2015, three months after starting the podcast and close to going back to a job, he read a letter his late father wrote his sister in 1999 ending "I hope you live your life with courage, love, and laughter", and tattooed the line on his arm.
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“Not everything that's happened to you in your life is your fault, but whatever it is that you have, it is your responsibility to work through.”
— Rob Dial
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“And if I'm going to feel the feelings of fear, why don't I also just try on feeling the feelings of success and getting there?”
— Rob Dial
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“I've discovered that all of our failure and success in life is based on our most repeated thought.”